Stars Crossed - How to Get Along with Scorpio

The Stars Crossed series focuses on astrological compatibility. While it’s way more complicated than just your Sun sign, we’re starting off with the Sun because it is an important part of your astrology profile. After all, it’s your core personality. 

This month, we look at Scorpio. Keep in mind this will be general info. As we progress in this series, we’ll look at many other details so you can get the complete picture of the Scorpio in your life (or yourself).

What to know about Scorpio:

Element: Water
Quality: Fixed
Symbol: The Scorpion
Ruling Planet: Mars and Pluto
Key Phrase: I desire.
Traits: resourceful, psychic, loyal, mysterious, vindictive

The symbol for Scorpio is the scorpion, but it should be the lone wolf. While they are devoted partners, they also don’t mind being alone. In fact, many of them prefer it. For those Scorpions who do mingle with the rest of the world, there are parts of their lives that no one ever gets to access. Only the most trusted get a peek, but even then, it’s never the full Monty. This is why they get a reputation for being secretive or mysterious.

They’re deeper than the Atlantic Ocean and require meaningful connections. A half-assed relationship will never do. If you want to commingle with these intense souls, you better be ready to merge. Frivolous folks need not apply.

Trust is a major issue for Scorpios. Some experience a letdown early in their lives, which makes it difficult for them to open up again. Usually, this comes from a parental figure. It’s vital for every Scorpio to have one trustworthy person in their orbit. It keeps them from becoming cynical. On some level, they want to believe the world is good, but it’s hard for them to keep the faith. 

Because they are a Water sign, they are emotional creatures. Their feelings tend to be extreme, which can be tough for those who must live with them. While they love with an unmatched fierceness, they also hate with equal intensity. Lord help those who get on their shit list. They will not rest until they see that karmic debt paid in full. Some of them can be vindictive and petty. If you ever felt the Scorpion’s sting, you know they aim to hurt when angered. Cross them and find out.

Scorpios are Fixed signs, which means they like to sustain and maintain. They’re also stubborn to the core. Try pushing them around, and you’ll quickly learn they won’t budge. Like their opposite sign, Taurus, they will dig in for the long haul – and hold a grudge until the end of time. 

While all of this sounds a bit scary, know this: you will never find someone as loyal as a Scorpio. When they commit, they are lifers. They are the best friend who never lets you down, the secret keeper who shuts their mouth, and the lover who has your back. They have tons of passion and sex appeal, so it’s no wonder everyone wants to be around them. Heck, most people want to BE them. 

Romancing a Scorpio: If you want to woo a Scorpio, begin by building trust. Show up when you say you will. Be solid. Don’t share their secrets. This turns them on. They adore beautiful, thoughtful gifts. A single, perfect rose is better than a dozen hastily grabbed at the grocery store. The men and women both love talismans, so keep an eye out for something unique and mystical if you’re shopping for them. Long dinners, intimate conversations, vacations to hidden locales, and plenty of making out will bring them closer. Because they are the sexiest sign of the zodiac, you might expect them to make the first move. Nope. They want to know you’re worth their time, so you better be ready to show interest. While they may love a mystery, they prefer a straightforward approach. Don’t assume they are “easy.”  If you want to get them in bed, you have to earn that privilege. (Psst…it’s worth the wait.) Lastly, don’t fib. They know when you’re trying to snow them. One lie and you’re out the door.

Scorpio parents: Scorpio parents are devoted and protective. No one lays a finger on their wee ones. If they do, they will feel the Scorpion sting full on! This protection also means they will sometimes be “helicopter” parents, the type who hovers over their kids, micromanaging their every move. In some undeveloped Scorps, this could turn into molding their child to be a “mini-me.” Scorpio parents need to learn to let their children breathe and make their own mistakes. If they don’t, eventually, the child rebels, leaving the Scorpio parent in a state of shock. “How could they do this to me?” Instead of attempting to run a tight ship, it’s best for the Scorpio parent to loosen up. When they do that, the child blossoms, and the relationship becomes the close bond the Scorpion parent desires.

Scorpio children: If you have a Scorpio child, trust is the biggest gift you can give them. Never break your word. If you do, they’ll never forget. They also need to feel safe about expressing their sometimes volatile emotions. When they go dark, do not shame them. Let them say what’s in their heart. It will be cathartic for them and build trust. Scorpio children want a close bond with their families. Even so, they need privacy. A room of their own, a locked drawer, or a special spot to keep their things makes them feel safe. These kiddos are highly intelligent and intuitive. They pick up on everything. So don’t assume they are easily fooled. It’s best to be straightforward in your approach. They may not like what you say, but at least they’ll respect you. They have ferocious tempers at times and can be stubborn. When they are acting up or refusing to budge, give them time to cool off. Push at your own peril.

Scorpio bosses: Scorpio bosses expect loyalty from their employees. They also have high standards. This means they want a competent, trustworthy team. If you work for a Scorpio, you’ll need to be dedicated to the company. There is no half-assing it. Most of them are strategic thinkers and highly intuitive. Not only are they able to find their way around obstacles, but they can also read people well. This gives them the edge at work. Because they’re a Fixed sign, they’re also stubborn. If you’re in negotiations with them, you’ll see that side emerge. Scorpios can be secretive, especially about financial matters. No matter if the company is doing well or not, they’ll often keep the details to themselves. 

Scorpio employees: Scorpios make great employees. They are hard workers and can be trusted to get the job done, even if it takes a lifetime. They like working alone, so avoid putting them in an open office setting. Instead, make sure they have privacy. Although they can work fine with a team, they prefer working independently. This helps them to think. They’re awesome in research positions or any work that requires strategy. Don’t expect your Scorpio employee to hang out after work. Instead, they keep their work and personal lives separate. Scorpio employees don’t like to job-hop. However, if the environment becomes toxic or they’re not compensated properly, out the door they go. 

Scorpio friends: If you have a Scorpio friend, congrats. First of all, you had to prove yourself to be trustworthy. Second, they’re extremely loyal. Scorpios are the ones who will always be there when the chips are down. Tell them anything. They won’t be shocked. Better yet, they’ll keep your secrets safely tucked away. They’re also not needy. You might go months without hearing from them but are able to pick right back up where you left off. They have a wicked sense of humor and are highly intelligent. Keep in mind they prefer one-on-one rather than giant group outings. Always make time for solo activities with your Scorpio pal. One thing to watch out for: if you cross them, they never forget. 

I hope you enjoy this peek into hot-to-trot Scorpios. Next up: Sagittarius Suns.



If you want to cover astrological basics, be sure to check out my book, Astrology For Real Life: A No B.S. Guide for the AstroCurious.

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@ Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2023


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