There is nothing more frustrating than dealing with snickers and sideways glances – and in some cases, verbal attacks – from people who don’t believe in your intuitive gig. No matter the reason for their opinions, at times these people can be aggressive and downright mean, which may make you want to crawl back into your metaphysical shell and never come out again.
But there is no need to be intimidated if you find yourself face to face with a skeptic who wants to make you feel like a fraud, discredit you or convert you to their way of thinking.
Here’s what to do:
- Breathe. Center yourself before you engage. IF you feel grounded, you’ll have an easier time staying present rather than flustered.
- Listen deeply. Give them the chance to tell you their “why” before you state your beliefs. Hearing their “case” will give you valuable info and feedback so you can understand where they are coming from. This knowledge may also help you eloquently share your viewpoint.
- Show respect. Always state that you respect their viewpoint before you share yours. This is vital. A conversation this sensitive needs to come from a place of mutual respect.
- Don’t let it escalate into an argument. Resist that urge to argue. In some cases, that may be what they are looking for. A heated debate will only lead to hard feelings on both sides. Likewise, do not ridicule their beliefs as they have every right to their world view. The mindset should be mutual, respectful understanding.
- Set boundaries. If they get disrespectful (or if you start going down that slippery slope yourself), set a boundary immediately. Let them know that you will only continue the discussion if the conversation remains polite. If they become abusive, end the conversation immediately and walk away. It’s not worth it.
- Do not go into “convert” mode. You want the mindset of “metaphysical diplomat” rather than zealot. Remember, you’re not trying to “sell” your way of life or force anyone to “get on your side”. Simply explain your beliefs and answer their questions truthfully and kindly.
- End it with grace and dignity for both sides. Thank them for sharing their thoughts and then move on. If you can end your discussion with humor (or simply agreeing to disagree), even better. Always try to end on a positive note.
Ultimately, it is all about showing respect even if you don’t see eye to eye (and having a thick skin at times).
All metaphysical practitioners will have to deal with this from time to time. If you can maintain a polite and interested mindset, you may not change their mind, but you’ll certainly create your own peace of mind.
© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2013
PS this method can be used any time you are dealing with someone who has opposing views (ex: politics). I’m also a huge fan of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. This book seriously changed the way I communicate with people. GET IT.
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