Stars Crossed - How to Get Along with Aries

The Stars Crossed series focuses on astrological compatibility. While it’s way more complicated than just your Sun sign, we’re starting off with the Sun because it is an important part of your astrology profile. After all, it’s your core personality. 

This month, we begin with Aries. Keep in mind this will be general info. As we progress in this series, we’ll look at many other details so you can get the complete picture of the Aries in your life (or yourself). 

What to know about Aries:

Element: Fire
Quality: Cardinal
Symbol: The Ram
Ruling Planet: Mars
Key Phrase: I am.
Traits: passionate, courageous, positive, competitive, action-oriented, impatient

Aries folks are live wires. Energetic, passionate, and courageous, they can be found first in line in everything. They are rarely shy, but if you encounter one who is more like a lamb than a ram, you can bet it might have something to do with their Ascendant or Moon.

Aries need excitement. Which is why they are often more about the thrill of the chase than long-term anything. The conquest is the goal, but the pursuit is the gold. They are not known for patience, so they’re often looking out the door for the next thing. This may cause them to make rash decisions, but the culprit is rarely cruelty. Instead, they’re bored. This means a relationship with them will be both exhilarating and aggravating. 

The other shadow side of Aries is selfishness. They are the first sign in the zodiac, after all. This means they will put their needs first, which can feel hurtful to the ones who love them. Generally, they are truthful, but sometimes they lack tact, which can make their words burn.

Speaking of burn, they are rarely afraid to torch bridges. Once they are done, it’s over. They can be quick to anger, but it doesn’t last long. The reason why: you’re already in the rearview mirror, and a new adventure is in their sights. 

Thrilling? Yep. If you’re ready for a wild ride, you’ll never be bored with an Aries. 

Romancing an Aries: Keep it spicy. If you become too safe, they lose interest. That may sound harsh, but I have found this to be true. Dates should have a bit of adventure to them, and they never get tired of trying all the new things. Tickets to the latest play, dinners at the newest (and hippest) restaurant, and spontaneous trips to exciting locations will make them swoon. While I don’t recommend playing hard to get (they can sense when you’re doing that), don’t be too accessible. If they can reach you any time of the day or night, you risk moving to booty call status. NOPE. Independence is a HUGE turn-on. If you’re busy doing your own thing, they will be captivated. Turn-offs: whining, neediness, head games, possessiveness (although ironically, I have met a few super-possessive Aries!).

Aries parents: Aries parents will be on the go, which means their households will be busy. They’ll also be into all the modern stuff, so their kids will have every new thing on the market. They are fun, young at heart, and protective. However, they can be domineering. Think: the football coach dad who screams at his kid for missing a touchdown. THAT. If you have an Aries parent, you’ll need to work on boundaries. While they may assume they know what’s best, that can quickly turn into everything revolving around them – and that’s not healthy. If you are an adult child of an Aries parent, it’s even more imperative to keep strong boundaries. If you don’t, they’ll be on your doorstep without notice and with a list of what they think you should do for them. 

Aries children: If you have an Aries child, you’ll need to keep them moving. Physical activity helps them to burn off tension. Some of them are gifted athletes, so getting them involved in a sport might keep them happy. They can be prone to temper tantrums when they don’t get their way. While it tends to blow over quickly, things can get ugly until they either get what they want or realize it’s not working. A bit of patience will pay off for the guardian of these little hotheads. 

Aries bosses: If your boss is an Aries, you’ll need to be ready to get behind them. They are passionate about their work and love to lead. It’s best not to try to take the reins from them unless they give you a clear sign they want to pass them your way. If they sense you’re trying to come for their crown, you’ll be quickly moved to benchwarmer status. While they love competition, they don’t like to be shown up. Also: they expect you to work as hard as they do. If they think you’re slacking off, expect to hear about it!

Aries employees: DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT tie these folks to a desk. They will go mad! Aries employees need to be where the action is, so make sure they are in the middle of all the exciting activities. They’re restless, so routine bores them to tears. If they begin to feel like their job is the same thing day after day, they’ll bolt. Freedom to come and go appeals to the Rams. But if you don’t have any boundaries, they’ll take advantage of that. They respond well to accolades, so be sure to recognize their contributions. Don’t overlook them, or you’ll quickly see their horns. Aries employees thrive in leadership roles. Look for ways to give them more responsibility, and they’ll excel. 

Aries friends: Aries make delightful, exciting friends. They are outgoing and enthusiastic, so even if you’re an introvert, they’ll convince you to don your party duds and hit the town. Because they are straightforward, they’ll have no trouble initiating friendships. They’ll also have little issue telling the truth. However, they don’t have a filter, so sometimes their truth bombs can feel explosive. Even so, you can trust that they won’t lie to you. At times, they can be selfish, which may cause friction. They can even be selfish in that they don’t want to share their friends with other people! While the loyalty and attention may feel good, at some point, you might feel frustrated if they’re hogging your attention.

Okey-dokey, this gives you a wee bit of insight into Aries Suns. Next up: Taurus Suns.



If you want to cover astrological basics, be sure to check out my book, Astrology For Real Life: A No B.S. Guide for the AstroCurious.

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@ Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2023


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