The Hit List - Girls like you

Long ago in a faraway land, I was dating someone that I was kinda nuts about. Actually, I was really gonzo about him. Like doe-eyed stupid.

Long story short, things fizzled and we parted ways but remained friends. It was better that way. Years later, we had an honest discussion about the demise of our less-than-fairytale union and he told me that the biggest problem was my independence.

He preferred a woman who “needed him” and told me that “girls like you might tell a guy to f*ck off. And then you did.”

Girls like me.

It’s not the first time my independent streak got me in trouble. When I was four, I decided that I wasn’t going to church any more. I thought it was boring and the churchgoers were hypocrites (mind you, I didn’t know that word at four but I knew fakers when I saw ‘em). I also hated being told what to do by that dude in the robe with all the wine ‘n stuff.

My protest got me nowhere fast but I made up my mind that as soon as I turned eighteen, I would never go to church again.

I held that promise.

There is something about being under someone’s thumb that rubs me the wrong way.

My extreme need for freedom gets in the way of relationships (that dude wasn’t the first one to bitch about my independence), holding a regular job (can’t stand having a boss), participating in groups (no sir, don’t like ‘em), or any friendship that has a hint of obligation (those Sex in the City chicks would not dig my no-show on brunch day).

I get salty anytime I feel restrained. This does not make me a good candidate for Fifty Shades of anything.

So yeah…girls like me are a required taste.

Like good ole Charlotte Brontë says: “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”

She was a girl like me.

Other stuff:

This is too funny: 10 Comics that Shut Down Terrible Internet Arguments. My favorite is the “you’re violating my free speech” one.

Ever get envious on someone else’s success? Esmé Wang wrote an honest, thought-provoking post on this.

Many of my yoga students have physical issues because they have sitting jobs. Marie Claire has some tips on how to sit properly + protect your body.

A Game of Thrones Season Five special? I am SO there.

Yes and Yes just released this lovely little app with daily reminders on positivity. I got mine and I love it!

A fascinating interview with Dr. Rebecca Gomperts, an physician who travels by boat to perform abortions on women who live in countries where abortion is illegal.

This is cool: a woman recreates seven generations of women in her family through Photoshop!

Play-Doh’s epic fail is a win for us all.

Damn Madonna – you be looking fine, girl! Time for me to stop making excuses!

How do I find true love and stop dating half-assed men? Ask Polly delivers. Ka-pow!

I love love love these photos of rock legends with their parents. Especially Frank Zappa’s parents. I want that living room.

Andrew Sullivan asks: Is Obama just a good closer?

We buy too many clothes. And this is how it affects second hand stores. (For the record, I buy few clothes. My guilty pleasures are books, makeup, and gadgets.)

I’m working on cleaning up my act starting January 5th. Why that date? It is easier starting on a Monday. This book is on my list for inspiration: Clean Slate: A Cookbook and Guide: Reset Your Health, Detox Your Body, and Feel Your Best.

I got a new Mac desktop but they don’t come with CD drives. Guess I’m buying this thing:Apple USB Superdrive. BUT I’m going to see how long before I actually need it. Game on!

One of my favorite recent purchases was this fabulous jar of bliss Blood Orange + White Pepper Sugar Scrub, 11.6 oz. This stuff leaves my skin baby soft – and it smells DIVINE.

This is on my wish list as the next bliss product I want to try: bliss High Intensity 24-Heaven Healing Body Balm, 8 oz.

For Christmas, I bought my little sis the Amopé Pedi Perfect Electronic Pedicure Foot File. We’re both kinda squeamish about feet and she says this thing is the bomb-dot-com!

I’m a sucker for a good cookie. These cookies look uh-may-zing: Cravory Mixes.

And in only one more week: Girls returns! YAY! I love this show!

What I’m Grateful For:

This brand new desktop I’m working on

Having fellow freedom-seekers in my crew

A slower schedule

Holidays are behind me

Only four months til Game of Thrones (who’s counting?)

Snow on the ground

A box of Indulgence chocolates (Grey Sea Salt is the BEST)

Soundtrack for 1/3/15: Independent Women by Destiny’s Child. They get it.