The Hit List - JOMO: the joy of missing out

As I scrolled through my Instagram feed one day, I paused to look at a pic of a group of friends frolicking by the ocean. They looked like they were having the best time. Don’t those beach party things always look like a blast?  I had been invited to this summer shindig but quietly declined.

The picture may have been the epitome of fun, but I was immersed in JOMO: the joy of missing out.

You probably heard of the opposite: FOMO. You know: the “fear of missing out?” The dictionary describes this as “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.”

I’ve rarely get that vibe.

Reason why: I’m living my life on my terms and I won’t commit to anything that doesn’t feel 100% interesting to me, no matter how much fun it may seem or who’s involved. I know who I am and what I like – and that’s the first step to avoiding “fear of missing out.”

My best life doesn’t mean: 

Endless vacations in sunny spots (I hate the beach)
Bragging about six figures (my income is no one’s business)
Walking on coals or other daring feats (not into that kind of risks)
Being a certain size (I’m long over that goal)
Doing crow pose (soooo uninterested)

That’s fine for some people and I applaud that all the way. But ‘m never too impressed by “lifestyle” brands or folks. Meh. My best life looks more like this:

Being debt-free
Good sleep
Traveling to places that don’t make me sweat
Whipping up luxe meals and treats (latest concoction: chocolate Rice Krispie Squares with a dark chocolate ganache and smoked sea salt flakes)
Time spent with my husband and children 
Conversations about Game of Thrones facts and theories.

That may seem rather basic to some but frankly, I’m not concerned with creating envy in anyone. I’m just doing my thing – and hope other people have JOMO when they glimpse at my world.

When you’re focused on what brings you pleasure, you never have to worry about FOMO. Instead, you can sit back, scroll past those glossy air-brushed pictures and feel happy or those folks but also thrilled that you’re not participating in anything but the stuff you really, truly enjoy.


Saw these beauties at the Domes

Other stuff:

Proud mama moment: my son was interviewed for a local music site.

Love this: Pam Grossman writes Yes, Witches are Real. I Know Because I Am One.

You can buy the ruins of Aleister Crowley’s mansion.

I never knew about raccoon dogs. Now I do.

About that Neo Tarot: A New, Richly Illustrated Tarot Deck Reframes the Mystic Art as a Form of ‘Self-Directed Therapy’.

I love reading about the costumes behind Game of Thrones.

How to Give Your  Business a Spiritual Tune-Up.

Legendary Transgender Activists Marsha P. Johnson And Sylvia Rivera To Be Honored With New York City Monument.

‘I was so heartbroken’: African American student stripped of salutatorian honor lost Ole Miss scholarship opportunity, lawyer says.

I don’t even believe in astrology, so why am I addicted to this horoscope app?

Early, Late, or Right on Time? Astrology and your due date.

Not surprised to read the latest allegations against a famous yoga teacher. I once listened to this jerk scream at a student. Anyhow: #TimesUp: Ending Sexual Abuse in the Yoga Community.

Wondering how to do your solar return chart? The AstroTwins have a tutorial.

Can We Have a Conversation About Abortion Bans and the South?

Great tips from Courtney Weber: 11 Tips For Writing Your Magickal Or Pagan Book.

Learn about the 8th house’s role in the astrological chart.

How to Be Happy? A Nearly 90-Year-Old Has Some Advice.

For Poor Young Women of Color, Failure Has A Whole Other Meaning.

The Reality of Being a Parent With a Controversial Past.

Looks interesting: Diversify.

Gonna pre-order this one:Moonpower: How to Work with the Phases of the Moon and Plan Your Timing for Every Major Decision.

From Anabel Gat: The Astrology of Love & Sex: A Modern Compatibility Guide.

More astrology stuff: Born Under a Good Sign: Make the Most of Your Astrological Sign.

WANT: Use Your Planets Wisely: Master Your Ultimate Cosmic Potential with Psychological Astrology.

NEED: The Mercury Retrograde Book: Turn Chaos into Creativity to Repair, Renew and Revamp Your Life.

Ooh: Intentional Tarot – Using the Cards with Purpose.

Gorgeous: The Alchemical Visions Tarot: 78 Keys to Unlock Your Subconscious Mind.

OMG a Charles Dickens tarot!

The Tarot Coloring Book is the best starting point for tarot newbies. Learn to read the cards while coloring them in!

Preorder Tarot For Troubled Times – and get some superfly and meaningful free gifts (learn about the gifts here).

If astrology leaves your brain jumbled, my upcoming astrology book will straighten you out: Astrology for Real Life: A Workbook for Beginners (A No B.S. Guide for the Astro-Curious). You can pre-order it now!


JULY 2nd, 2019: I’m teaching at New Renaissance Books in Portland, Oregon on July 2nd at 6:30. Tarot Cards for Shadow Work – Together we’ll explore shadow work, Tarot archetypes, Birth Cards, finding the good in “bad” cards – and the dark side in the “good” ones. You’ll come away with knowledge about your Tarot Birth Card and some suggestions for making peace with your shadow.

JULY 7th, 2019: If you’re in the Bay Area, join Chris Zydel and me on July 7th for Brushes + Cards + Shadows An Intuitive Painting and Tarot Workshop. It will be EPIC! SOLD OUT!

JULY 26th, 2019: Join me and Shaheen on Friday, July 26th for a Tarot For Troubled Times book launch party! Where: Free Spirit Crystals in Butler, Wisconsin. What time: 7 PM. Cost: Free!

JULY 27th 2019: Tarot for Troubled Times with Shaheen Miro and Theresa Reed. Learn about shadow work, archetypes, tarot birth cards, and remedies for tough times. Boston Tea Room in Ferndale, Michigan. Class starts at 4:00PM. Cost $60.00.

AUGUST 18, 2019: Tarot Cards for Shadow Work – Join me at Eye of Horus in Minneapolis from 1 PM – 3 PM for a class on exploring shadow work with the tarot. We’ll cover the Birth Cards, Tarot archetypes, and more. Cost: $30. I’ll be available for book signings at 12 PM.

OCTOBER 4th, 2019: ASTROLOGY FOR REAL LIFE BOOK LAUNCH PARTY! Where: Where: Free Spirit Crystals in Butler, Wisconsin. What time: 7 PM. Cost: Free!

OCTOBER 6th, 2019: Astrology for Total Beginners. Where: Eye of Horus in Minneapolis. What time: 1 PM – 3 PM. Cost: $30.00.

OCTOBER 12, 2019: Crash Course in Tarot. Where: 22 Teachings, Los Angeles. What time: 12 PM – 2 PM. Cost: $40.00. All the details are here.

OCTOBER 13, 2019: Crash Course in Astrology. Where: 22 Teachings in Los Angeles. What time: 12 PM – 2 PM. Cost $40.00. All the details are here.

Special deal: sign up for both Crash Course in Tarot and Crash Course in Astrology and save some bucks!


What I’m Grateful For:

Time to myself
Russian Doll (it’s great!)
Upcoming birthday
Visits from friends + favorite folks
A full day of clients that I love
New yellow notepads
Lily scented candles
The joy of missing out on boring crap that I don’t like

Soundtrack for 6/1/19:

Nightmare by Halsey <-Debbie Harry makes a cameo!



© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2019

images from stock photography and personal collection


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