The Hit List - No offense but

For highly sensitive people like myself, certain online spaces feel a bit treacherous. Especially Facebook. Although it’s a wonderful place to stay connected with loved ones, it can also feel like a war zone. Even politeness waves a red flag at times. “No offense but…” is code for “I’m about to write or share something that might upset you.”

So you learn to filter things and people. Or you mute, block, or unfriend in order to keep the chaos to a minimum.

You have to engage in a certain amount of online kung-fu when you’re hanging out in online spaces because these platforms bring out the best…and the worst.

What can you do when you want to maintain your connections or your business page – but you don’t want to engage in drama?


  • Spend less time there. I’m sure you can find other things to do.
  • Set your privacy filters to high – it will make it harder for people you don’t want to find you.
  • Only accept friend requests from people that you know or have met in person.
  • Loved ones that like to stir up crap can be muted so you don’t have to see what they are up to. Unfollow as you feel necessary.
  • Think before you type, share, or comment. Be as kind as you can. If you have something to say that is controversial, be mindful of how this may impact others. You can’t always avoid this – especially when commenting on politics.
  • Create “friend lists” so you can choose who sees your posts. This is one of my favorite features.
  • If someone is abusive, unfriend and block. The block button is your best friend. Use it as often as you need.
  • If someone unfriends you, it may hurt your feelings. If they give you a reason, perhaps you can discuss it. If it’s done on the sly, let it go. Really. It’s not worth losing sleep over. Take none of that personally. Bless ‘em and move on.
  • And if it still feels too much for your tender heart, deactivate your account. Or take it down. I have friends who want nothing to do with Facebook and the like – and they are thriving with full, real lives.

No offense but…I’ll say it again: there’s plenty of other things you can be doing.


Mums the word.

Other stuff:

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Meet the designers behind the Bratz dolls.

Yes: ‘The Health Care Repeal Won’t Hurt You’ & Other Things You Should Never Say To A Cancer Survivor.

The creator of the Motherpeace Tarot got a nod from Dior.

See you tomorrow: this guy said the world will end today. But you can book an appointment with him…next week.

Want to win a 2018 Desire Map Daily Planner PLUS a Tarotcast? There’s still time to enter the 2018 Desire Map Tarot Contest!

Betsy DeVos Has Revoked Obama’s Title IX Guidance On Campus Sexual Assault, So What’s Next?

Billie Jean King talks about the story behind the battle of the sexes.

Good advice from Rebekah Hansen on what small steps to take after the Equifax fiasco.

Yoga does a body good: this 74 year old yoga teacher is an inspiration!

Jimmy Kimmel is speaking out – a lot. I like it.

Mary K  Greer wrote this interesting post on Pixie Smith and Toy Theatre.

People often fear the Devil, Death, and the Tower more than any other card. In this 3 night course we will explore these powerhouse energies. What to do when you encounter them, how to work with them, and even how to harness their power! Join me, Andrew McGregor, and Camelia Elias for this online course: Sex, Death and Destruction with Tarot.

How to help the victims of Hurricane Maria.

Alexandra Roxo writes about how to expand your spiritual practice beyond meditation.

3 prosperity rituals for the fall equinox from the Rich Witch.

Autumn is a time to harvest magical and medicinal herbs.

I LOVE this post from Siobhan Rene: How to sort the courts part 3: Stories of the modern day queen.

On Wednesday, 9/27, my friend Jen Vertanen is launching her new podcast, #goingtherewithjen, and hosting a one-day storytelling campaign around telling the stories that hurt and removing some of their power over us. Raw, hilarious, unfiltered, honest…Join Jen and help others feel less alone ==>

What happens to medium’s brains when they talk to the other side? This post answers that.

JayZ thinks the president is a joke.

My eating goal: Vespertine.

This is how Anthony Bourdain picks the destinations for Parts Unknown.

Good stuff from Tiny Buddha: 3 Empowering Ways to Reframe Anxiety: Work With It, Not Against It.

A must-have book for old punks: The Mudd Club.

This looks amazing: Chai, Chaat & Chutney: a street food journey through India.

Now that fall has kicked in, it’s baking time around here. I might need this: Maison Kayser’s French Pastry Workshop.

This is also my time for slow cooking. This is on my list: The Chef and the Slow Cooker.

Can you believe it’s been almost a year since The Tarot Coloring Book has been released? I hope you got your copy!

Speaking of which, the last leg of the book tour is next month in Colorado. Join me at these fine places:

October 12th 2017 at 7:30PM: Boulder Book Store in Boulder, Colorado. Join me for a short discussion on tarot + book signing!  Books will be available for purchase.

October 13th 2017 6PM: Trunk Nouveau, Denver, Colorado. Join me for tricks ‘n treats ‘n a short talk on tarot + book signing!  Books will be available for purchase.


What I’m Grateful For:

Date nights at the movies

Pens that work

Sandalwood oils

Air conditioning

One cool day where I can bake

Time to think

Checks that arrive on time

Finished paperwork


Soundtrack for 9/23/17:

You Da Baddest by Future ft. Nicki Minaj


© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2017

images from stock photography and personal collection

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