The Hit List – Thinksgiving

by Theresa Reed on November 26, 2016


This year, I did something different for Thanksgiving. Something I’ve always wanted to do but didn’t dare to before.

I said “thanks, but no thanks.” In other words: no.

No to the holiday, no to cooking a big meal, no to the family hubbub, no to all of it. It’s not that I’m being a Scrooge, mind you.  Far from it. I’m a generous gal.  It’s because I was feeling burnt out from the book tour and the election. I wanted to be alone to recoup and regroup.

I wanted to think.

It was time for Thinksgiving: a quiet day with zero obligations. For an introvert like me, this is heaven.

So I gathered my courage and said “not this year.”

I knew that it would piss people off.  For you see, my family adores the puff, the pageantry, the boisterous gatherings where everyone lingers over a shared meal and friends might just drop by unexpectedly for coffee or a beer.  Me…not so much. Too long with that festive stuff and I’m looking for the exit and the chance to go home, slip into my pajamas and curl up with a book.

“How come you have to leave so soon?”

Back in the day, I had to feign illness or mutter some stuff about work.  For you see, my mother had a black belt in manipulation and guilt trips. Faking was the only way to escape.

But this year, there was no need to fake anything.  It was simply “I don’t want to do this. I need to be chill.”

There were a few grumbles and pleas to reconsider but then…begrudging acceptance. I got my way. I was going to be alone.

Thinksgiving came and went without a shred of drama. There was no noise. It was as tranquil as an ashram.  I could get inside my head.

No big meal to cook. Not much in the way of clean up.  Pajamas all day long.

It was the best Thanksgiving I ever had.

Explaining your introvert nature to a family of extroverts is difficult. They always assume that I’m “being difficult” or “moody.” They don’t understand how much I value my time alone – or how vital it is to me.

And you know what? That’s fine.

I don’t need to explain it at all. To them.  To anyone.

If you’re an introvert like me, you may also feel a bit overwhelmed with the holiday hoo-haw.  If that sounds like you, here’s my 6 step plan for creating your very own Thinksgiving:

  1. Decide you’re going to do it and make your announcements early.
  2. Don’t make excuses.  Just declare that this is what you want and need – and then don’t back down, no matter how much shade is thrown your way.
  3. On the day of, turn off your damn phone. Be unreachable.
  4. Stay in your pjs all day long.  (Yes, you can take a shower and brush your teeth.  Staying in pjs doesn’t mean being a slob. Unless that’s your thing.)
  5. Get all the books and surround yourself with them. Have reading glasses + chocolate + wine nearby. Order in – or make an easy meal that doesn’t require a lot of effort (I made crab cakes + salad.)  Rest up.
  6. No regrets.



Other stuff:

Fidel Castro is dead.

This rescue goat needs a duck costume to stay calm.

Fascinating story: The Last Unknown Man.

I love these tips from Liz Worth: What to do when your tarot reading confuses the heck out of you.

After the election, people are going on an unfriending spree.

Over at Tarot Thrones, Alison Cross is talking about how the King of Wands is tarot’s bridge card.

Beth Maiden shows how to make your very own magic wand.

I’m über curious about Shut Eye.  Need to get Hulu I guess.

Smart advice from Bari Tessler: 5 ways to make a remorse-free money decision.

US: we have a nuclear waste problem.

Tales from the front lines of Black Friday Shopping. (I avoid this like the plague!)

If you must know: how to shop Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales.

Loving yourself is a revolutionary act!

One of my favorite interviews: chatting with The Secret Library Podcast about The Tarot Coloring Book.

From my gal, Briana Saussy: New Year Prosperity tips ‘n tricks to spruce up your pocketbook.

Cool: a slideshow with Stevie Nicks’ witchy shawls!

My crafty series, How To Bling The Tarot Coloring Book, starts out with some scrapbooking flair.

Read this: Modern Witchy Woman writes about embracing her sexuality through tarot.

Christine Mason Miller writes about the joy of her husband’s retirement over at Modern Creative Life.

Fave post of the week from Tanya Geisler: On (almost) losing  my suitcase and finding my purpose – a metaphor from Kelly Diels.  (Psst…I dig these two brilliant women. A lot.)

Can’t wait for this to drop: The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Dr. Judith Orloff.

On my holiday wish list: Making Life Easy: A Simple Guide to a Divinely Inspired Life by Dr. Christianne Northrup.

Do I need Dorie’s Cookies?  Probably.

The Tarot Coloring Book is available everywhere! Psst…it makes a great holiday gift!

I know what a few people might be getting for Christmas: this genius neck pillow organizer thingamajig.

What I’m Grateful For:

Quiet time

Comfy pajamas

A bowl or two of homemade Chex mix

Espresso swirl cheesecake

Writing time

Recording time

Unexpected flowers


Soundtrack for 11/26/16:

Let it Bang by A$AP Ferg ft. ScHoolboy Q


© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2016

images from stock photography and personal collection

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