The Hit List - If Only I Would Have Listened

If I listened to my father, I would have believed that girls were weak. I might have “known my place” and kept it.

If I would have listened to that guidance counselor who told me that I should be a secretary instead of taking a creative path, I might be in someone else’s office today, typing, filing, and making coffee instead of hanging out my own office, happily writing this blog post with a cat on my lap while sipping tea.

If I would have listened to my mother who told me that it’s “best to shut your mouth when they act that way”, I would have stayed with my first husband instead of being with the man I am with today – a man who treats me with respect and is my very best friend in the world.

If I would have listened to that boss who said I would fail because “no one pays for tarot readings”, I might have never started my own business (which has now been thriving for 25+ years).

If I would have listened to that critic who didn’t like my work, I might have stopped doing what I’m doing. (Sorry, buddy – I don’t drink haterade.)

My mother often said that I was a poor listener. Actually, I’m not.  I am a selective listener – and that is a good thing.

The next time someone tries to dash your dreams, put you “in your place”, tells you to “not say anything” or slams your work, give yourself permission to tune that noise out.  Don’t let someone else’s worldview determine your world.

Create your world, on your terms, no apologies. That’s the only advice you need to listen to.


I like where I am just fine.

Other stuff:

Election got you down? Here’s a hopeful, post-election tarot card reading that I wrote for Rebelle Society.

Another tarot spread you might enjoy over at Autostraddle: A Tarot Spread for the Revolution.

OMG YES: Someone turned RuPaul’s Drag Queens into Major Arcana cards! LOVE this!

Seeing the world, not the wall: elections lessons from death row.

What happens when a populist demagogue takes power? Look at the Philippines.

Super stoked about this: Milwaukee Art Museum’s Haunted Screens – German Cinema in the 1920’s.

My most favorite interview ever: I’m talking about beards and tarot – and more with MKE Beard Book!

RIP Gwen Ifill.  You will be sorely missed.

Where do tarot cards get their fortune-telling power?

11 power women to get us through these dark times.

I love these minimalist tarot cards! So cool!

105 easy Thanksgiving sides.

Cats in hats – made from their own hair!

How cute is this little panda mini-bluetooth wireless speaker?!

Advice on saving money – what to do and what not to do (hint: don’t give up your wine!)

How Planned Parenthood plans to fight the next few years.

No, we won’t calm down. What tone policing is – and why it’s another form of oppression.

Know them – avoid them: the 5 faces of toxic relationships.

Why cookbooks are looking more and  more like comic books.

What to wear for every kind of flight.

Things to see and do in Detroit. (Just passed through the Motor City myself last week and it was AWESOME.)

I’ve got a new crafty series happening on my blog.

The Tarot Coloring Book is out ‘n about. I hope you got your copy!

I love America’s Test Kitchen books. This one looks great: What Good Cooks Know.

I NEED this purple pasta pot.



What I’m Grateful For:

What I’m Grateful For:


Sitting on the couch with a cat and a glass of wine

Fixed tires

Long, deep sleep

An amazing publisher


Soundtrack for 11/19/16:

Why You Always Hatin’ by YG ft Drake and Kamaiyah


© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2016

images from stock photography and personal collection

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