The Hit List - No offense taken

I’m a Gemini. My love language is “words of affirmation.” This means that words are important to me.

It’s no wonder I’m always writing and talking. Expressing my thoughts is as vital to me as the air I breathe. Perhaps because I’m getting older or maybe due to years of yoga practice, I’ve become more conscious of the impact of my words. I know that every comment that falls from my mouth or pen can leave an impression.

I strive to make sure the one I’m leaving is helpful and lifts people up. Of course, I don’t always get it right…but I sure try.

When people start out a statement saying “no offense, but…” or “I hope this doesn’t piss you off, but…” that “but” means on some level they know that they are about to say something that will cause pain. In some cases, there is no intention to hurt. But there are times when those opening statements are the red flag that something awful is about to come down – and they know it.

Do we really need to say things that might wound? Can we not think first and be mindful of how our words might land? Are there better ways to say something?

With this Mercury retrograde hanging around for a few weeks, let’s take time to think long and hard before opening our mouths, sending that email, or posting on social media.

Instead:

Complain less, listen more.
Criticize less, praise more.
Talk about the things you love instead of the stuff you hate.
Stop looking for mistakes.
Start looking for what’s good.

Imagine how we’d make others feel if we did that. Let me get the ball rolling for you:

You’re doing great. Keep it up! You’ve got this.

I BELIEVE IN YOU.

How can you say one mean word to that face?

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