What I Wish My Tarot Clients Knew

by Theresa Reed on May 16, 2012

I deeply care about you but I won’t attach myself to your issues.  Tarot readers are sensitive creatures.  We have to create strong boundaries in order to preserve our own inner peace.

I can’t remember your readings (I do a “reading dump” at the end of the day).  I can barely remember my grocery list. Trust me on that.

Last minute appointments throw my mojo off.  My day is strictly planned and I don’t like surprises.  Sorry but you’ll have to wait.

A tarot reader practices a lot of self care – you should too.  You deserve it.

You don’t have to be unhappy.  You have every tool available (including therapy) to change your life.  Your future is always up to you.

There are no guarantees.  Don’t seek that from the cards or from me. The only person who can give you a guarantee on your life is you.  

I can’t read for everyone. Nothing personal. Sometimes we just don’t gel.  Keep searching and you’ll find a reader who is a better fit for you.

Don’t waste your energy on past loves. The present is all that matters.  What will you do with now?  Start with loving yourself.

You must take action if you want your life to be awesome.  Sitting around waiting for your “luck” to change leads to a whole lotta nothing happening.  

A tarot reading is rarely if ever 100% “accurate”.   If you are seeking 100% accuracy, that’s a mighty tall order.

When you call me for a “chat as a friend” and it ends up with you dumping on me and asking me to “toss a couple of cards” or give you “my vibe” on the situation, I feel very taken advantage of.  (This is why my phone is always off – I won’t allow this any longer.)

Everyone has their turn at the wheel.  Life is always in motion.  Don’t get angry if life doesn’t always go your way.  Roll with the punches.  This too shall pass.

If you walk in the door proclaiming that you “don’t believe in this stuff”, I don’t find it charming or funny.  It puts me on the defense and creates a hostile environment.  Would you like it if someone did that to you at your job?  Probably not.  If you don’t believe, I really don’t have any interest in proving a thing to you.  

Likewise, if you choose to sit mute in the reading or wish to “test me” with trick questions, I hope you realize that you are making my work feel like an onerous chore.  Be friendly and don’t play games.  We’ll get along much better.

When the clock is off, my mojo is turned off.  And no, I don’t walk around “reading energy” or prying into other people’s auras.  It’s invasive. I like to mind my own karma.  (Oh, and that perplexed look on my face is not about you – I’m probably stewing over last night’s Mob Wives episode because that is where my brain goes when I am not working.)

Not all tarot readers are witches (I’m not one).  Nor are we all gypsies, psychics, con artists, women, pagans, crones, druids, or any of the other stereotypes you may have heard.  We come in every shape, size, color, gender, sexual orientation, background, belief system, etc.  

Tarot isn’t only for divination.  In fact, tarot originally started as a game – and it is still played as one to this day.  Tarot can also be used for creative prompts, conscious decision making, self development, a therapeutic tool and more.  

When you ask the same question over and over to get the answer you want, my cards get rebellious and I get aggravated.  Don’t do it.  

Tarot is not “evil” nor the work of the devil.  In fact, it’s quite neutral and depends entirely on the intent of the reader and client.  Most readers want to help, not harm.

Bitter is not a good look on anyone.  Don’t be bitter – be better.

You do not have a curse on you.  If you believe that, you have taken your own personal responsibility out of your current circumstances.  If your life feels crappy, you can change it.  It’s always up to you.  As my mother said “your life is how you make it”.  

No ones gets spiritual by holding on.  Let go.

What feels so horrible and difficult right now will bring deep understanding later.  You’ll look back and see it differently.  BREATHE.  It gets better.

Your future belongs to you and is yours alone.  Focus on you.  Don’t worry about everyone else. Live fully.  Be present.  

In the end, you’ll realize that this was all just one big, joyful journey.  Love the life you have now because it will end one fine day.  And that’s the only future you can count on.

Blessings!

Theresa

© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady

What do you want to know about tarot or tarot readers?  Or what do you wish people knew about tarot?  Post your comments and questions in the comment section below:

 

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How To Choose A Business Or Life Coach

by Theresa Reed on May 9, 2012

Stuck in a rut but raring to go?

Ready to take your business (or self) to the next level?  

Perhaps you simply need direction….or some tough love.

If so, at some point you may have considered hiring a coach.  

Coaches can: 

  • push you towards your personal best
  • call you to the carpet when you are sabotaging yourself
  • help to brainstorm new ideas and fine tune the good ones
  • hold your hand or hold you accountable 
  • sometimes all of the above 

I’ve had numerous coaches over the years – including one on one and group programs.  I have been fortunate enough to have (mostly) good experiences. I’m on a quest to continuously grow as a person and entrepreneur – so for me, it’s essential to have the right support to keep me and my business moving forward.  A coach is a valuable member of Team Tarot Lady.

Choosing a good coach is not an easy process nor something you should take lightly.  With more and more people jumping on the coaching bandwagon (because they assume they’ll make “easy money”), it’s getting harder to weed out the frauds from the real, experienced ones. Anyone can call themselves a coach – and with cheapie “diploma” mills and home study courses, it’s even easier to look “certified” and legit to an unsuspecting public.

But if you are mindful and take a few careful steps, you may just wind up with the right person by your side, guiding you towards your greatest success yet.  Here are my best tips so that you get the ideal experience (and the most bang for your buck):

 

  1. Know what you want to accomplish and what you need.  For example, if you are looking for someone to help you with your marketing, then a lifestyle coach may not be the person you want.  Get super clear on your goal so that you may weed out the ones who aren’t going to be suitable for your mission. Also, ask yourself if you prefer one on one work or if you enjoy a group program.  Personally, I like the group dynamic but I get way more value out of private coaching.  
  2. Research, research, research.  Look very carefully beyond the snappy web copy and get the real facts.  For example, what is their training?  Did they go through a reputable coaching program? How many years have they been in business?  What are their specialities?  Do they have real references that you can contact?  At the very least, they should have a successful business or lifestyle model that appeals to you.  
  3. Talk to them.  Find out if their personality is a good match for you.  An “in your face” method may work for some while others may prefer a coach with a softer touch.  One of my worst experiences was in a group program with a coach who promised to be accessible and then became aloof and pretty much disappeared when the program began.  
  4. Cheap isn’t necessarily better.  Sometimes you do get exactly what you pay for.  But then again, big bucks doesn’t guarantee you are going to have a rock star experience either.  Stick within your budget but don’t jump at the cheapest one in the lot – often they are cheap for a very good reason.  
  5. Consistency is a must.  Beware of the coach who is constantly scrambling with a million websites and Facebook pages, new Twitter handles every few months, and unfinished projects.  Reinvention is one thing – scattered focus is another.  You want someone who is clear on their brand and not all over the place. If they are not focused on their own business, how do you think that will translate to their work with you?
  6. Street cred.  Do they have testimonials from real people?  How about pictures of them at industry events or speaking engagements?  Do they have a healthy following on social media sites?  Are they well regarded amongst their peers?  Are they actually living the lifestyle they claim? It doesn’t take much to find this out.  Simple googling should turn up plenty of social proof.
  7. Be sure they have a real, current headshot on their site (a video introduction is even better but not necessary).  You need to have a good idea of whom you are working with.  For example, I will never work with someone who uses a cartoon or symbol to represent themselves. I want to see an accurate and friendly representation before I sign on the dotted line.  If you have seen the documentary Catfish, you quickly learn that anyone can be whatever or whomever they say online – that “handsome million dollar success coach with 20+ years experience” may be nothing more than a pock marked loser living in his mother’s dilapidated house.

 

No matter whom you choose to work with, there is one other factor to consider: a coach is only as good as the client allows them to be.  Once you hire your coach, you become a team. It’s up to you to show up and do the work as well if you want to see the magic unfold.  

“A good coach will make his players see what they can be rather than what they are.”  ~Ara Parasheghian

Blessings!

Theresa

© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2012

Have you used a business or life coach? What was your experience?  Post your thoughts in the comment section below:

 Resources:

These are some coaches and programs that I have worked with directly or in a group setting and can personally attest are the real deal:

Erika Lyremark at Daily Whip

Yolanda Facio at Red Hot Momentum

Nathalie Lussier

Tara Gentile

Dyana Valentine

Rich Happy and Hot B School with Marie Forleo

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The Deck and Book Nook – Mary El Tarot

May 6, 2012

I was excited to get my hands on a copy of the long awaited Mary-El Tarot (Schiffer ISBN:  9780764340611) by artist Marie White.  I had seen some of the pictures and so I knew it was going to be a stunner. And oh, what a beauty indeed!  First of all, the packaging is exquisite – a [...]

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Talkin’ Tarot With Matt Williams

May 2, 2012

Talkin’ Tarot With is a monthly feature designed to introduce my readers to different tarot readers from our wonderfully diverse community!  Each month, I’ll be asking various tarot readers 3 questions about their tarot philosophy and style, plus pointing you to their websites and blogs so that you can learn more about them!  I like [...]

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Lessons Learned at RS12

May 1, 2012

Each year when I return home from the Reader’s Studio, I like to look back on my notes and reflect on my take aways.  As always, I come away with so much.  It’s almost impossible to grasp the scope of it all until much later.  Here’s what I learned this year: 1.  The Amberstones never [...]

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RS12 – Final Day

April 30, 2012

Sunday morning I woke up bright and early after a great night’s sleep.  Although it was a lighter schedule ahead, I knew today would still feel like a long day.   I strolled down to the breakfast roundtable hosted by Marcia McCord expecting more knowledge over load but she had other ideas for our time: [...]

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RS12 – Day Three

April 29, 2012

Today would be the most content heavy day of the Reader’s Studio with two master workshops!   I was sure to get a seat in the “breakfast roundtable” led by Nancy Antenucci, author of one of my favorite tarot books, Psychic Tarot.  Nancy led a story telling group where many of us shared some of [...]

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RS12 – Day Two

April 28, 2012

Even though we had the class with the Amberstones, Friday is the “official” beginning of Reader’s Studio.  Ruth Ann and Wald began the event by welcoming everyone warmly.  This was followed up by a ritual, which charged the energy of the room and alerted us that now things are really underway.   The main instructors [...]

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RS12 – Day One

April 27, 2012

I had been anticipating the annual Reader’s Studio event for weeks.  Not just because it’s a chance to do non-stop tarot, but it’s also an opportunity for me to hang with friends and go back to my old stomping grounds in NY. I arrived two days early with my daughter to have a little time [...]

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Tarot To The Rescue – Talking With Your Teen

April 18, 2012

Years ago, an angry woman brought her teenage son in for a tarot reading.  She was frustrated with him and assumed that a tarot reader would “set him straight” (for the record, no one should ever be coerced to come in for a tarot reading nor should anyone put the responsibility of “disciplining or scolding [...]

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