The Hit List – Before you hit send

by Theresa Reed on August 27, 2016

The Hit List: Before you hit send

There it was.  A snide comment on a blog.

Not mine…someone else’s.  Someone who was trying to do good work in the world.  A person that I know to be a beacon of kindness and integrity.  A model of what’s good in the universe.

But yet someone – a peer – felt the need to leave an unkind remark.

Why?

Was it to knock her down a peg or two?  To take her off some sort of imaginary, threatening pedestal?  Why would a colleague feel the need to drop a big bag of condescending snark on someone else’s digital home?

I don’t have the answers but I do have a solution if you find yourself thinking of doing the same: pause before you hit send.

That simple.

Even if you feel that you’re trying to offer “constructive criticism”, take a moment.  Consider how your words and tone might impact the other person.  If you really do have a critique, might you frame it so that you are truly helpful? Might there be a way to do this privately instead?

Maybe in some cases “calling someone out” might be righteous.  After all, when someone is behaving horribly, we cannot turn a blind eye, right?  But dumping on someone who is doing nothing except trying to be kind or helpful?  Think first before you hit that button, bruh.

How might your words make them feel? Is making them feel bad what you are aiming for?  If so, rethink this.

And maybe leave something sweet instead. Instead of finding fault, find something to like.  Do that.

Make someone’s day instead of making them feel like shit.

The end.

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It’s perfectly fine to show cats with shark hats on the internet. More, please.

Other stuff:

From shaman Sarah Petruno: How to clear your online energy presence to attract more clients.

Bust writes about the legacy of Clara Bow, America’s first sex symbol (and my favorite silent film actress).

I love the Quick Not Dirty tips over at Lenny Letter.

Good reading: 5 beliefs that hurt your relationships – and how to let them go.

The University of Chicago is not supporting trigger warnings or safe spaces.

It’s happening: the re-segregation of schools.

It’s no secret that I’m a fan of doll cakes.  This bakery got slammed for making a Ken doll cake.  Meanwhile, I’m jealous that I didn’t get one.

Brie Larson’s friend, Melinda Lee Holm, is making tarot-inspired jewelry.

I got the most lovely shoutout from Mary of Seven Cups Mystic in her Modern Tarot Queens post!  So honored!

Unbelievable: sending cancer patients to debtor’s prisons.  WTH?!

My gal Amelia Quint is featured as one of the 6 bloggers rocking unique niches over at XO Sarah.

Want to read tarot down to the bones? Then get yourself over to Camelia Elias’ digital world and sign right up for Cards and Magic 2.0. This looks uh-may-zing!

What to eat for dinner based on your zodiac sign. According to the AstroTwins, us Geminis should be going for the finger foods.  (But what about the doll cakes???)

Planning on going to Florida but worried about the Zika virus? Here’s what to do.

For biz ladies: Caroline Frenette is hosting a day long business acceleration hang in Los Angeles.

“Mysticore” is a hot new trend. (Psst…mystical stuff never went  outta style.)

Must read: a DIY guide to feminist cybersecurity.

Just in time: The Hermit’s Lamp has a great new class – Reboot Your Life with Mercury Retrograde.  And it’s only 50 damn bucks.

Rush Limbaugh is worried about lesbian farmers.

Great post on the Hierophant and facing change from Barbara Moore.

The troubled teen industry has been a hot mess – but a lucrative one.

Might need to try these for myself: Bathtime rituals to put kids to bed.

Tarot lovers take note: Briana Saussy has a BRILLIANT new program – 20 Question Tarot.  This is so smart – get on it!

Wondering what it’s like to be a defense lawyer in a rigged criminal justice system?  Read this post from Mother Jones.

Loving this wisdom from Mara Glatzel: Being too precious about the process.

Why didn’t you just leave? Stories from survivors of domestic abuse.

Great post from comedian Sara Benincasa: Why am I so fat?

Stormy Sweitzer asks: what if you just said no?

I’ve been enjoying Tarot Mysteries: Rediscovering the Real Meaning of the Cards by Jonathan Dee.  You might too.

On my wish list: Radical Beauty from Deepak Chopra and Kimberly Snyder.

I am OBSESSED with L’oreal Voluminous Lash Primer.  This has made my lash game so strong, I didn’t even need false ones for my latest photo shoot!

I Love home design books. This one is great: The New Bohemians – Cool and Collected Homes.

What I’m Grateful For:

Thoughtfulness

Earnest gestures

Sweet emails

Astrology

External hard drives

Soundtrack for 8/27/16:

Rae Sremmurd – been jamming on this new stuff constantly!

Blessings,

Theresa

© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2016

images from stock photography and personal collection

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Tarot Advice – Guidance in Every Card: Justice

by Theresa Reed on August 26, 2016

Tarot Advice - Guidance in Every Card

Tarot isn’t just for divination – it can also be a wonderful tool for guidance.  In this series, we’ll explore the advice options for every card.

With a Tarot deck by your side, you can make clear decisions, deal with challenges confidently, and find alternate routes when necessary.  The result? The best possible guidance for the future you want. 

Join me every Friday for a new installment – and get ready to add some helpful advice + loving support to your Tarot readings.

Tarot Advice - Guidance in Every Card: Justice

This week: Justice

Justice is a reminder to be fair in all of your dealing. Take time to consider all sides before making a decision of power.  Weigh options, hear everyone out, look at every pro + con, deliberate carefully: then, when you feel that you have the knowledge needed to make a right decision, execute it with confidence.

Justice can also advise to seek wise counsel, especially if you are asking a question about legal matters.  Go to the expert.

This card is also symbolic of a need to follow the law/rules.  Instead of bucking the system, this card favors working within the system.  Stay the straight and narrow – do not deviate from the rules.

Speak your truth! Remember, the truth will set you free. In all matters, do your best to be honest. BE integrity.

Justice also favors “doing the right thing.”  Even if the odds seem stacked against you, follow your moral compass and trust that karma will sort things out.

Speaking of karma, this card can also advise to “settle your karmic debts.”  There may be a situation where you are being called to do just that – for example, if you’ve done somebody wrong, you may have an opportunity to make it right.  If you are asking about something along that line, this says: pay your debt + you’ll be free.

Lastly, Justice can be advising to seek a peaceful solution to your problems.  Where can you be a source of peace and diplomacy?

Justice reversed:

It may be hard to see what way to go at this time.  Hold off on making a decision. Give yourself more time to examine your options.

When reversed, this card can also be a warning that Justice will not be served – if this comes up in your reading and you’re asking about a court case, be sure that you are getting proper counsel.  If you are not, it may be time to hire an attorney – or fire one.

If you’ve done a crime, this may also be saying: do the time.  Don’t try to get out of it.  Pay your dues for any wrongdoing you’ve done.  Like the post above about karma, it’s also a sign of unpaid karmic debts.  Do not run from problems – face them directly.

If you are thinking about doing something illegal, unethical, or dishonest, you better make damn sure the circumstances are justified.  Sometimes the means justify the ends…other times not. Proceed with great caution (Btw, I have had this come up with clients who were involved in illegal activities – and I warned them to stop or risk jail – and guess what happened?  Yup, jail time.  If you are participating in shady activities, this card can be a warning to knock it off.)

Questions to ponder:

What does fairness mean to you?  How can you find the middle ground?  What does it mean to be operating out of integrity?  Have you ever experienced a situation where you had trouble making a moral decision? What did that feel like?  When have you been unjust or the victim of injustice?

Blessings,

Theresa

© Theresa Reed | The Tarot Lady 2016

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